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Pseudo-relationships.

Pseudo-boyfriends.

Pseudo-girlfriends.

Flings.

Almost like a relationship, but not quite.

It is a phase where the persons involved
are more than friends, but not quite lovers.

Puwedeng may verbal agreement,
puwedeng wala.

One or both of you may have admitted your
feelings,possible ding hindi.

You just let your gestures do the talking for
you.

Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari.

Hindi kayo mag-dyowa.

Pero sa kilos niyo,
sa mga sinasabi niyo,
parang kayo,pero hindi.

This kind of "relationship"
can happen at different stages
for different reasons.

It can happen after a break-up.

You still love each other,
and you want to be with each other
but you broke up for a reason.

And for reasons that you alone know,
ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan.

It can also happen before a relationship,
iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam.

Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-
seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.

Testing lang. (tama ba un?!)

Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo
kasi isa sa inyo may ka-relasyon na.

Kaya habang hindi pa siya
nakikipag-break doon sa boy/girl
(sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon
pero di naman niya ginagawa),
wala muna kayong relasyon
para nga naman hindi siya nangangaliwa
kasi "hindi naman kayo."

This pseudo-relationship stage,
for a time, can be fun.

Lalo na kung naghahanap
ka lang naman ng "KALARO."

Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect
na may patutunguhan kayo kze
wala talagang kasiguraduhan.

So bakit ang daming nagse-settle
sa ganitong set up ganoong
hindi naman sigurado
kung may patutunguhan?

Iba't ibang dahilan.

Puwedeng for fun lang.

Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or
puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom."

Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real
thing,
doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.

For those who are not in a serious
relationship,
they would think that pseudo-relationship
is better than no relationship at all.

It would be fun, if all you're after
is that "kilig" feeling.

But then I learned that although it was
only a pseudo-relationship,
the emotions were real.

And usually, in this kind of set up,
merong malulugi.

"ung nainlove sa taong taken na.."

Una, you can't ask him/her to commit.

Since it's not really a relationship,
you can't demand commitment from your
partner.

Ano ba kayo?

You will always be uncertain
about your role in his/her life.

You can't expect him/her
to be always there with you.

And if you feel jealous of the other boys/girls,
you just have to keep it to yourself.

Ano ka ba niya para magselos?

Pangalawa, what if
you fall deeply in love with him/her?

You can't be sure if he/she feels the same
way.

Baka nag-a-assume ka lang
na mahal ka rin niya.

Even if you are dying
to tell him/her you love him/her,
you can't.

Because you're not sure
if he/she will like it.

Baka mapahiya ka lang.

This stage will always make you wonder
where you are in the relationship.

Or if there is a relationship at all.

Pangatlo, what if you become attached too
much?

What if you have invested
all your emotions and this man/woman
hasn't?

What if you remain faithful to him/her,
not entertaining other guys/gals,
only to find out that he/she is seeing
other girls/boys?

Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships,
it is fleeting.

When a disagreement sets in,
or when one of you gets cold,
then that would be the end of it.

Unlike in a serious relationship,
hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar
sa isang pseudo-relationship.

Wala kang pinanghahawakan.

Kasi sa pseudo- relationship,

there is no "us."

Meron lang "you and me,"

hindi "us"

You Are A Realistic Romantic

You are more romantic than 70% of the population. It's easy for you to get swept away by romance... But you've done a pretty good job keeping perspective. You're still taken in by love poems and sunsets You just don't fall for every dreamy pick up line!

Are You Romantic or Realistic?

You Are From the Moon

You can vibe with the steady rhythms of the Moon. You're in touch with your emotions and intuition. You possess a great, unmatched imagination - and an infinite memory. Ultra-sensitive, you feel at home anywhere (or with anyone). A total healer, you light the way in the dark for many.

What Planet Are You From?

How Your Attitude Ranks

Your Attitude is Better than 65% of the Population If you scored... 80-100: You've got a winner attitude. You're always optimistic and cheery. Your personality will get you far in life. 60-79: You have a good attitude. While a realist, you do see the positive side of most things. People love to be around you. 40 - 59: You have a positive attitude... somtimes. You prefer to see the world through clear glasses, not rose colored ones. 20 - 39: You have an average attitude. You take the good and bad in life as they come. Though sometimes you could use a little more good. 0-19: You have a negative attitude. You tend to see the dark side of every situation. Free ice cream? No thanks, it will just make you fat!

How's Your Attitude?

You Are the Individualist

4 You are sensitive and intuitive, with others and yourself. You are creative and dreamy... plus dramatic and unpredictable. You're emotionally honest, real, and easily hurt. Totally expressive, others always know exactly how you feel.

What number are you?

You Are "Kiss"

What Japanese Smiley Are You?

Sagittarius - Your Love Profile Your positive traits: Your playful nature brings out the happy inner-child in dates You're willing to take risks in love... and reap the rewards You've got a killer sense of humor that gets talking with any hottie you meet Your negative traits: Sometimes your sarcasm comes off as biting and abrasive You can be brutally honest, tactless, and truthful even when it hurts You're such a free spirit that you find it hard to commit to one person Your ideal partner: Someone high energy who will pick up and out with you whenever Is creative and fun - thinking of new adventures for the two of you Is bold... and not afraid to tell you "I love you" early on Your dating style: Unpredictable. You never know how the night is going to end up. Your seduction style: Daring. You're always pushing to try something new in the bedroom. Full of imagination. You've always got a new fantasy you're dying to try. Spritually driven. Sex for you can be an other-worldy act. Tips for the future: Realize that while freedom is great - sometimes a stable relationship is better. It's not all about you. Focus on your parnter's needs every once and a while. Make up your mind about your parnter, and stick to it. Your fickle will ruin things otherwise. Best place to meet someone online: American Singles - tons of flirting and fun to suite your inner extrovert Best color to attract mate: Purple Best day for a date: Thursday Get your free love profile at Blogthings.

Your Love Number is

2 Of all the numbers, you are the most caring and empathetic lover. Unselfish and humble, you find it easy to forgive your sweetie's mistakes. At times, your need to please can be come a bit too needy. As long as you remain somewhat independent, your relationships are perfectly balanced.

What Is Your Love Number?

The Hebrew Talmud says: "Be very careful if you make a woman cry because God counts her tears. The woman came out of a man's ribs, not from his feet to be walked on. Not from his head to be superior of but from the side to be equal with. Under the arm to be protected for and next to the heart to be loved... "

Happiness or Sadness??? Sana ako baby...

happiness or sadness?

Message: There was this guy who loved two gals at the same time but he didn't know
which one he loved more. Someone taught him.

Ask yourself this question and answer it honestly: "When you are happy, which gal
would you want to share your happiness with?" The one you think of is someone you love.

Ask yourself another question and answer it honestly: "When you are sad, which gal you want to share your burden with?" The one you think of is also someone you love.

If you think of the same gal when you are happy & sad, that's the most perfect. But if you don't think of the same gal, I would advise you to choose the one you are willing to share your sadness with.

In life, there are more sorrows than happiness. There are too many People whom you can share your happiness with, not necessarily your lover. If you live your life
happily, you can also enjoy it alone. In sadness, however, there are not
many people willing to share your burden with you.

If you are willing to tell someone your happiness, I am sure that person has got to be someone close & an understanding person to you. But it shouldn't stop there.

If that person only thinks of you when she is happy, but looks for someone else when
she is sad, this lover is too unstable, she doesn't treat you as someone she
can spend the rest of her life with.

Of course, I will be very happy if I am the first person to share her happiness. But, if she is sad, I will be too willing to stay by her side & ease her pain.
Only then, will I believe that I hold a very important position in her heart.
If you are sad, who comes to your mind first?

Friendship is a strange thing. We find ourselves telling each other the deepest details of our lives ... things we don't even share with the families who raised us.

But what is a friend? A confidant? A shoulder to cry on? An ear to listen? A heart to feel? A friend is all these ... and more. No matter where we met, no matter how
long we've been together ... I call you friend. A word so small, yet so large in
feeling, a word filled with emotion, a word overflowing with love. Truly great things come in small packages.

Once the package of friendship has been opened, it can never be closed. It is a constant book always waiting ... waiting to be read... and enjoyed. We may have our disagreements ... we may have our appointments.... We may argue ... we may have concern for one another... friendship is a unique bond that lasts through all tribulations. A part of each of us goes into our friendships ... our humor ... our
experiences ... our tears.

Who comes first to your mind?